Hi, I’m Millie… And I’m a hopeless romantic.
That’s right. I am a firm believer in true love. I adore a good Disney fairytale (who doesn’t?) I can fully relate to the T-Swift classic “Love Story”, I think there is definitely such thing as The One, and weddings make me all mushy on the inside EVEN IF I DON’T KNOW THE COUPLE.
This isn’t some big moment of self-discovery, I’ve always loved to love, but lately I’ve found it much harder to admit. Weird, since it’s not exactly an FBI level secret.
From my detailed research* I’ve come to the conclusion that the reason we feel the need to hide our hearts is because making strong emotional statements like falling in love can have such a negative impact in this odd dating world we’ve found ourselves in.
*drinking wine with my girl friends.
There is SO MUCH PRESSURE for girls (and guys) to play it cool and not come on too strongly. I’m not exactly making history in these observations, but come on, we live in an incredibly efficient world where everything was expected 5 minutes ago. Why should I wait half an hour to reply to a text?
Disclaimer :: This is not me. This is not even someone I know – it just made me happy!
In this strange world of dating, there are a couple of ground rules I would really like to put in place:
:: If you like someone, you should tell them. Simple as that.
:: If you want to catch up with someone, be direct. There is nothing more frustrating than trying to read between the flirty comments and the little hints. And anyway — to know that someone wants to spend time with you is a compliment. It’s hard to take badly!
:: If you do work up the courage to ask someone out and they say yes (woo!) then GO THROUGH WITH IT! If you genuinely can’t be there for whatever reason, then be honest, direct and give them as much warning as you can. Dating can be disappointing enough so let’s just help a sister out a bit.
:: If someone asks you out and you don’t want to go, that’s ok, not everyone is meant to be. Just be kind and honest in your response. It goes a long way.
:: We make jokes about men and their locker room chat, but let’s be honest — girls talk in some incredible detail and we luuurve to share. So as an all-round rule for the ladies AND the fellas, sing some Aretha Franklin to yourself and have a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
:: The final rule is a bit of a contradiction… FORGET THE RULES! There are a million different circumstances/personalities/beliefs running around out there, so it’s impossible to assume that one list of rules is going to fit every situation.
Waiting three days to call someone? Call them right this second. Holding back your burning passion (lols) to hit the third date mark? Get nude now. Worried about introducing them to your friends and fam? Book a table at your favourite pub and get all your special people in a room together. Rules are made to be broken so get out there and be a rebel!
So that’s a little bit of love chat from your resident self-confessed hopeless romantic. Not exactly ground breaking stuff, but hey — I’m sure I’m not alone.
BIG LOVE, Millie x